Give a little...

I've taken a little time lately to reflect on the the blessings that life has bestowed upon me. It seems that far too often we as a collective are quick to point out the aspects in which we feel we've been slighted in life. This is especially true of us young, go getter types, in which roles have not been traditionally defined. Let me explain... In a simpler time, we as men, have had a traditional role. We work, we provide, our sacrifices are appreciated as what they are. However, traditional roles have taken a backseat to modern roles, and because of which, our new roles are not so clearly defined. Though learned we are, we sometimes find ourselves confused because now, we compete on equal ground with our significant others in the workplace. (Which is the natural order of things.) But, the basis of the male identity is that which must be appreciated in it's own right. The "atta boy's" that once were commonplace in the "good 'ol boy" world have been replaced with staunch realities which include, but are not limited to, "This could have been done better this way or that..." In a scenario similar to this, we must be able to rely on those those closest to us to fill a void that previously did not exist. The role of the validator. Please correct me if I am wrong or appear to be ranting. Most of us, whether it be in business, service, or industry strive to reach a certain pinnacle. That which we may stand back and take pride in the effort we have put forth & be proud. Hold in our hand, see the bottom line, or go the extra mile & feel that what we have done was worth while, not just a means to a paycheck, but a job well done. I do not praise or persecute society for being this way, more so than point out that sometimes we, as men, need to know from the soles of our feet to the top of our head, that the efforts put forward are meaningful and appreciated. We sometimes need the reassurance of those closest to us, that our efforts are not in vain & do not go unnoticed. We are not the emotionless automatons that we have been dictated to that we must be, & every now & again we feel that we need those closest to us, whether it be man, woman or child, can see the value in the subtle battles and compromises that today's man must struggle through. Furthermore, we, (or at at least, I...) Need to be told.... "Good job, you have done well." So, for those of you reading this, have you done all you can to deserve the kudos of your loved ones? & more importantly, if so, have you shown the appreciation to those whom you love which so desperately deserve to hear so? I seem to think that each and every one of us knows we can benefit with doing a little more of both. ~end rant~